March 22, 2007
Fetish Flash - March 21, 2007 - Special Events Announcement
Quick announcement of some great events coming up.
What: Thomas Roche and Violet Blue host a class at Syren in LA called Fetish Sex.
When: Thursday, March 22
Where: Syren, 7225 Beverly Blvd, Los Angeles
Time: 7:30pm - 10pm
More Info: www.eros-la.com/featuredevent
What: Midori hosts a play party for bondage lovers and those who want a chance to practice.
When: Saturday, March 24
Where: Joe's Place, 975 Howard (between 5th and 6th Streets), San Francisco
Time: 6:00pm - 10:00pm
Cost: $20 at the door/$15 at the door with snacks
More Info: fd-midori.livejournal.com
September 18, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 26.0 - September 18, 2006 - BDSM, Part 2
We continue our conversation on BDSM with Selina Raven.
She introduces us to RACK - Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.
We touch upon edge play and triggers that can be set off during both physical and psychological play.
We list some of the activities that are part of BDSM play, but as Selina reminds us, you are only limited by your imagination when it comes to the types of play and what you can use when you are creating a scene.
She surprises us with what not to use when binding your partner, as well as some of the basics for picking out rope.
Listen in for some brief descriptions on spanking, flogging, electrical play, pinwheel, and so many more!
And because Selina is all about safety, she reminds us to practice, practice, practice before you turn that flogger onto to someone for the first time.
We will list the resources we mentioned on the show very soon. We invite everyone to share their own favorite BDSM resources here in the comments section.
September 04, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 25.0 - September 4, 2006 - BDSM, Part 1
BDSM : Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism (or Sadomasochism)
Selina Raven joins us to talk about BDSM. She shares her knowledge of the history behind this alternative lifestyle, as well as her own experiences.
BDSM encompasses a lot of activities and mindsets. We talk about the roles of the top and the bottom, the dominant and the submissive, the sadist and the masochist. To some it's a lifestyle, to others it's a form of occasional play, and to some it's a spiritual practice.
Negotiation and communication are key elements in mastering any kind of relationship, especially BDSM, so we spend some time talking about the importance of BDSM activities being safe, sane, and consensual.
We finish Part 1 of this two-part conversation by defining what a safeword is and just why it is so crucial in every type of scene.
Stay tuned for Part 2, in which we dig deeper into the various kinds of play, equipment, and risks of S&M.
August 30, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 24.0 - August 25, 2006 - Fetish Flame Welcome Their New Masters
After many conversations and long deliberation, we are really excited to announce our affiliation with PodShow. We're incredibly hopeful that this will mean great things for the Fetish Flame show and allow us to bring even more to you!
Stay tuned as we take the show to a whole new level!
August 16, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 23.0 - August 11, 2006 - Chanta Rose: Bondage for Sex
Chanta Rose is an incredibly beautiful and sexy bondage model and rigger, sex educator, webmaster, and now author of Bondage for Sex.
She joins us on the red couch for an intimate discussion of her book, her experiences with bondage, her websites, and the joys and perils of the Hitachi Magic Wand.
There's a momentary lapse into a conversation about Canon vs Nikon SLR cameras, but I quickly bring it back to the titillating topic at hand.
We can't say enough about her book (Atticus even gushes): incredibly sexy photos, well-detailed instructions on tying the knots, and down-to-earth writing. Which all lead to an amazing way to spend an evening with your partner.
And her husband's site:
Sex and Submission
August 01, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 22.0 - July 29, 2006 - Fetish Porn & Jealousy
We sit down to talk about an article in Skin Two #55 about porn, both mainstream and BDSM/fetish, which leads to some interesting speculations about what kind of porn we would create.
(While recording the show, we couldn't recall the name of the filmmaker who is carrying on with the Ivy Manor series, so here it is: John Fitzgerald.)
We answer listener mail from a kinky couple, Tuesday and Robinson, who write in with a couple of questions. We briefly talk about humor in fetish photography and groups, and then dive into the deep subject of jealousy.
Another rubber site to share: Body Cult
For the listener who asked about a latex kilt, check out the gallery for 2004/Page 5 - there's an orange splash of color that opens to an image of a very hot creation!
Here's our calendar for the next couple of months - let us know if you'll be around:
September 23rd - San Francisco for Folsom Street Fair
September 29th & 30th - Ontario, CA, for the Podcast and Portable Media Expo
October 5th-9th - London, England, for the Skin Two Rubber Ball
July 15, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 21.0 - July 14, 2006 - Latex and Lust (Designs)
Penny of Lust Designs joins us to talk about our favorite topic: Latex!
She generously shares her experience and knowledge of creating latex fetish wear. We ask her about the various weights of rubber, the cost of custom made outfits, menswear, women's fashion, what you can and can't do with rubber, tips for those new to rubber, durability, etc.
You can check out more of her gorgeous designs in the gallery on her website and in issue 55 of Skin Two magazine.
["It's all about the fit. And as long as something fits you right ... no matter what size you are or what kind of flaws you think your body has, if you have something that is made personally for you that fits you the way it should, you'll look great in it no matter what it is. Because you have someone that knows how to fit your body, and that's something I'm really good at."]
June 02, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 20.0 - May 31, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part Two
This is part two of a conversation with the beautiful, intelligent, and wonderfully personable Bridgett Harrington, who sheds a blinky light on clown fetishism.
She helps us understand a bit more about what is behind this fetish, which has many different meanings to those who love to don the many different clown personas: "For a lot of people, it's about stepping out of the norm. It's about pushing other people's boundaries or just getting a chance to be stupid.... They are chaos magic incarnate."
Listen in for some of the most colorful stories ever told on the red couch! (Did she really say "pie-throwing, inflatable balloon strap-on gang bang?") We love when her voice slips into her clown persona Sherbert as she tells us of the adventures that come when that persona comes out to play.
We discuss the fun, silly side of clowns, and the dark "Devil's Rejects-like" menacing side of clowns. She is one; her husband is the other.
Want to know more about clowns? Check out the links at the bottom of Sherbert's page.
And as promised, here is the hilarious website of her friend Sex with Rubber Chickens.
May 22, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 19.0 - May 21, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part One
This is the first of two shows with Bridgett Harrington. She wears many hats (corsets, costumes, etc.), and there isn't much she hasn't experienced or isn't willing to try. Check out her other sites: RopeLover, BlackBookArt.
Bridgett began to explore her sexuality at a very young age, and she entered into the BDSM community just a few years later. With very few limitations, she has dabbled in many areas of the scene. She selflessly shares her personal journey and the dangers of lack of education and guidance, along with with inexperience and innocence.
Then she gets down and dirty on WAM fetish. Wait until you hear her describe milk pouring down the body...it's just so...um....well, why don't you listen and hear it for yourself.
Note: If you are a regular subscriber to Bridgett's site, she will fulfill specific requests for images that you may want to see. So if you have a fetish that is so unique you are not finding what you want on the web, this could be your answer.
Stay tuned for part two, in which Bridgett answers our questions about a fetish we really didn't understand: clowns.
April 24, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 18.0 - April 21, 2006 - Interview with Ms. Marina
[Thank you to my favorite kinky mom and new kinky friend, Ms Thrash, for the sexy intro!]
She generously shares her experiences of coming to terms with being kinky, feeling out of place, getting over her insecurities, and finding her way into the BDSM community. As headmistress of a play space, she has some great advice to those who are just venturing out into the scene, as well as those who are contemplating it. She understands the apprehension and anxieties of being new to all of this, and she offers great tips on how to meet people and also some scene etiquette to remember.
Marina highly recommends getting as much information as you can before venturing out and has taken the time to put together a great list of books and web resources to get started. We welcome everyone to add to the list with their favorite BDSM piece. Check out Greenery Press and Daedalus Publishing Company to purchase most of the titles.
For another terrific interview with Marina, check out Thomas Roche's piece in Eros Zine.
April 07, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 17.0 - April 6, 2006 - Underfoot with the Vinyl Queen
[Thank you to Autumn for the fun intro to the show and for creating a Fetish Flame MySpace Group!]
We discuss the nuances of trampling with the Vinyl Queen. She provides a lot of great info for the novice as well as some stories of the more extreme.
Safety is a big issue. There is danger for the trampler as well as the trample victim. We talk about the various levels of intensity, from the bare foot to the stainless steel pointed heel that can pierce the skin. She tells us about BZ heels, which leave a horseshoe print on the skin, and also reveals how a bathroom mat can help prevent marks.
VQ discusses balance, duration, the best parts of the body to trample, footwear, multiple tramplers, extreme cases, etc. She also answers questions including Why do people like to be trampled? What part does submission or humiliation play in trampling? and of course, How do I introduce my partner to my desire to be trampled?
...and wait until you hear about the cockbox! (a special version of the show to follow with pictures)
Don't get too excited, but it sounds like Atticus may just be up for trying this one out.
[A special note of thanks to M, who introduced us to the concept of trampling last fall and ignited my desire to learn more about this fetish. I appreciate your patience, and I hope that this was worth the wait!]
March 30, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 16.0 - March 29, 2006 - Part 2: Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, the Ultimate Kinky Couple
[Thank you to Tiffany from Tennessee for the very sassy southern intro to the show! And thank you to Justin, A, and K for the great pix from the SF Fetish Ball!]
We catch up on some fun activities: the SF Fetish Ball, meeting some of our listeners, and an unwelcome interruption of a play date.
Listener emails: The Fetish Flame Frappr map continues to bring joy (even though we still are not huge fans of the way the site functions): Two couples who did not know the other was kinky find out through the map! Sam and Katy amaze us with their homemade vac bed (there's a tease of a picture of it on the map with their profile).
We then finish up our conversation with Drs. Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence. They give great advice on how to find out if a couple you meet in a non-kinky environment is actually kinky. We also dig into their incredibly vast knowledge of porn and find out what their favorites are.
March 16, 2006
Show Notes for 15.0 - Part 1: Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, the Ultimate Kinky Couple
[Thank you to the beautiful Minx, host of Polyamory Weekly, for the intro!]
Before we get into our guest show, we chat a bit more about vac beds to answer a couple of listener questions.
We share the sad news that Gwen Media is closing down.
Speaking of events, we'll be at Club Enslaved and the SF Fetish Ball this weekend. Drop us a note if you'll be there; hopefully we can meet you.
And for the pièce de résistance: Drs. Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, founders of the Center for Sex and Culture and one of our favorite pervy couples, join us for a fun and sexy conversation.
In Part 1, we touch upon a great mix of erotic subjects: sex worker parties, queer limericks, parties with threesomes and moresomes, sex swings, etc.
Carol and Robert also offer some wonderful advice to a listener question: How does the single male meet people at kinky parties and sex clubs without coming off as "the creepy guy"?
Stay tuned for Part 2!
March 01, 2006
Show Notes for 14.0 - Puffy Down Fetish and Vac Beds
Please post to our Frappr Map. We would love to see how far our Fetish Flame family spans the globe.
Help us spread the word about Fetish Flame. Share your fun marketing ideas with us.
The vac bed has been built, and we share stories of its maiden voyage at a kinky party!
February 21, 2006
Show Notes for 13.0 - Diaper Dan
[Thank you to the gorgeous Ms Marina for the intro to the show!]
The hosts of Fetish Flame are graced with the presence of Diaper Dan and Madame Gina Grant, who provide additional information on the differences between Diaper Lovers and the Adult Baby/Infantilism population.
Dan has an incredible life story that all fetishists will find interesting. He is very comfortable with his kink and openly discusses all facets of how it started and how things have grown and changed over the last 30+ years. He is articulate, funny, and, says Nova, very handsome.
He generously shares stories of the evolution of his kink, from his first orgasm in seventh grade while rolling around in a pair of rubber pants to the current day setting of fun and elaborate sessions with Madame Gina in her play space.
Nova digs a bit into Dan's don't-ask-don't-tell policy with the woman with whom he shares his life.
Dan offers up some suggestions on how to set up the core elements of different role playing sessions. Atticus' favorite:
Nurse Ratchet: "Your stay here can be either constructive and a truly watershed event in your correctional development, or beyond even your most perverted and sorted nightmares. It's your choice, Danny."
He shares tips for finding a professional willing play in this fetish, and what to do and not to do when you contact them. Doms who do this are very much in the minority, but this actually plays into Dan's enjoyment: he gets off the taboo of his fetish.
Finally, he answers a listener's question about ordering products discreetly. As promised, here are the websites he suggests:
Diaper Connection, Diaper Station, Plastic Pants, Fetware, and SafeComfort.
February 14, 2006
Show Notes for 12.0 - On Our Knees
Nova and Atticus curl up on the red couch with some TheraFlu and a furry blanket, get down on their knees, and apologize for the wait between shows.
They want to thank everyone for all the great emails to say how much you miss them, and for the donations toward the video camera. They are greatly humbled by your generosity and heartfelt wishes.
They share some listener emails, one of which really tugs on Nova's heartstrings.
Dr. Black shared a great site with Atticus, RubberPal, and he would love to hear what other rubber lovers think of this online community.
They have a request to the kinky ladies, and all who identify as a gal: Leave a voice mail for the intro to the show! Nova and Atticus have received so many emails from interesting, intelligent, and oh-so-kinky women - and they want to make you a part of the show.
Here's the Skype info: "nova_atticus" or 415-992-KINK and leave a message that includes your name or pseudonym, where you are calling from, and the website, something like: "Hi, this is Beth from Boston and you are listening to (my favorite podcast) Fetish Flame." Feel free to throw in any other sassy notes that you'd like to say to Atticus, Nova, or our listeners.
December 27, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 10.0 - Interview with Carol Queen
Nova and Atticus are joined on the red couch by Carol Queen, PhD, Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture. Carol is an author, performer, producer, editor and educator.
Listen in on a lively and informative conversation. Highlights include a discussion of the fun job of testing the toys at Good Vibes and going through private collections of porn donated to the Center. She shares a story of homemade porn that involves something as simple a one-minute segment of a woman tossing her hair or pursing her lips, cycled forward and backward repeatedly for the viewer's pleasure. What Carol and her partner Robert are most interested in finding are the things that cause arousal in individuals - and not just the mainstream "created porn" for the masses.
While talking fetishes, Nova is elated to find that Carol shares her fetish for the male forearm!
Carol generously shares her knowledge and experiences. She truly believes in the importance of sharing information as much as possible in order to educate people on all things sexual.
Along the same lines as her advice column "Queen of Hearts," she has plans to appear regularly on Fetish Flame in an "Ask Carol" segment. We invite you all to write in with your questions for us to present to Carol (we are happy to discuss them anonymously if you do not wish your name or pseudonym to be used).
December 12, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 9.0 - Interview with Midori
International educator and author Midori joins Nova and Atticus on the red couch to discuss her latest travels and projects. They dig into her latest book, "Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink," an essay collection with a wonderful amount of information on sex and fetishes.
Midori describes herself as a polyfetishist, a hedonist, and a sensualist.
In her chat with Nova and Atticus, she shares a life of growing up with an open and healthy outlook on sex. They discuss the shame that exists for some in sex and in fetishism, and how that can limit their ability to talk about or act upon their kink.
Midori attributes her strong educational foundation to the wonderful instruction at San Francisco Sex Information, a free and anonymous resource for information and referrals.
Other titilating topics covered: traveling with SM gear, gas masks, latex, leather, and fur. And there's mention of a rubber inner tube and a bunny costume.
You can pick up a copy of Midori's book at JT's Stockroom and many other locations.
December 08, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 8.0 - Catching up
Nova and Atticus catch up on where they've been and where the show is going.
They read some listener mail that challenges and offers other points of view on their opinion that Tops should experience being on the bottom.
A couple of listeners write in about silk scarf fetishes.
New conversations arise over negotiation.
And finally, they delve into the ideas of Nova bottoming to another man, both of them bottoming to a domme together, and Nova topping Atticus with a professional.
November 22, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde
Nova and Atticus sit down (in the jungle of LA) with world famous -- and incredibly humble -- international fetish photographer Steve Diet Goedde.
They talk about his career and the newly released "Living Through...Steve Diet Goedde," a collection of almost 15 years of unique, intelligent, and extraordinary work. (Nova gushes quite a bit in this interview.) This DVD honestly offers something for every fetishist and anyone who enjoys beautiful photography of very interesting and gorgeous women. (You can get a signed copy for $20 on his website.)
Steve discusses starting photography at a very early age and also opens up about his early memories of developing a boot and shoe fetish before he even knew what sex really was. Nova reveals a bit of her own fascination as she points out a number of unique shots that bring subtle focus on the sexy shoes, boots, and stockings on the models.
In addition to fetish photography, Steve has also had his phonecam art displayed in galleries.
Stay tuned for an advanced version to be offered on iTunes with images from the DVD.
November 14, 2005
Show Notes Fetish Flame 6.0 - Nov 8, 2005 - Of codpieces and car keys
Nova and Atticus have a very casual conversation that runs the gamut of topics from switching and spanking to podcasting and fashion.
They talk about their trip to LA to attend the Portable Media Expo/Podcast Conference. And divulge the identity of a celebrity guest they will be interviewing for a future show.
And, thanks to Tony at Skin Two, they finally get their hands on the incredibly flattering article by Jan Pelczynski in Issue #53! (Jan is also an incredible photographer and you can view his work in many issues of Skin Two)
They spend some time on listener mail. One letter from a kinky mom spurs more discussion on being kinky and being a parent.
*Question to the listeners*
What do you do with your "vanilla stuff" when you are wearing a fetish outfit with no pockets? (Please post answers in the comment section)
And now you can leave us a voice mail at 1-415-992-KINK
November 05, 2005
Show Notes for 5.0 - Chatting with Sissy syndi
We are joined by the one of the infamous Pink Posse, syndi, a self proclaimed "closet crossdresser in a vanilla marriage that wound up as a personal sissy to a professional domina".
She candidly shares with us: early memories, shopping for clothes, how she came to be the personal sissy of Natasha Strange - and also her feelings of being in a marriage where her fetish is known but they live by a "don't ask don't tell" principle.
Also discussed are the fetishes she's enjoyed over the years: panties, boots and high heels - and those that have developed as she's explored her sissy side: Cuckold, Small Penis Humiliation(SPH), and even a Latex fetish she credits us for!
...and an embarrassing moment where Atticus and syndi help Nova figure out which end is up on a pair of sexy panties.
October 25, 2005
Show Notes for 4.0 - Discussing sexual fetishes versus sexual interests
We shared a clip from Violet Blue's Open Source Sex #17 with our kinky friends Selina Raven and Gina Grant. It presented a very clever scenario to answer a listener's question on how to determine if something is a sexual fetish or a just an interest in something.
The conversation was getting interesting, so we brought it down to the red couch and started recording... as a result, there were a few new interesting fetishes revealed.
(sexy arm compliments of Rob of the Adventures of Rob and Gwennan - thanx! N)
October 17, 2005
Show Notes for 3.0 - Atticus & Nova go to the Fair.
Nova and Atticus layer latex for the first time!
A few of our favorite stops that day:
Twisted Monk where the beautiful Cat wore a gorgeous custom made PVC catsuit made by Imp of Satan.
Flogger.com where we fell in love with a "Quirt" (which we mistakenly called a "viper" whip on the show)
Then we answered a couple of listener's questions which brought us back to more discussion on anal play, as well as a bit more digging into what goes on in our kinky relationship.
October 08, 2005
Show Notes for 2.0 - Discussing diaper fetishes with a kinky couple
J&A, a young kinky married couple, join us to talk about thier relationship that began on alt.com.
J has a diaper fetish that A does not completely share, and she has many other kinks of her own. They give us some insight into what they have done to modify things to make sure that they are both happy and satified.
J opens up about how difficult it was to accept and admit that he had this fetish. While A talks honestly about other options she came up with to try to find an alternative to wearing diapers.
J's favorite diaper fetish links: www.sissybecky.com
www.dailydiapers.com (who provided the great image)
We definitely hope to have them back. Not only are they incredibly cute and fun, but they have many more adventurous stories to share.
August 16, 2005
Show Notes for 0.8 - Aug 15, 2005 -Kumi
The beautiful and funny international fetish model, Kumi joins Atticus and Nova on the red couch. She answers all their questions openly about her modeling career, suspension bondage, and of course her shared love of latex.
Some of the links we discussed during the show....
We hope to have Kumi back to talk more about her other fetishes (stockings, shoes, wigs) and Nova wants to get personal and talk about relationships. She is traveling all through Europe for the next few months, so we may have to wait until the end of the year to have her back.
In the meantime, you can follow Kumi in her actively documented
July 23, 2005
Shownotes for Fetish Flame 0.7 - The Strap On Show
Atticus and Nova explore the fun and variations of Strap-on sex.
Great website for the under 18 crowd to learn more about sexuality: Scarleteen http://www.scarleteen.com/
Nova recommends Ultimate Guide to Strap-On Sex for a great start on information, and Atticus suggests The Strap On Book if you can get your hands on a back copy.
Just starting out? We both highly recommend Bend Over Boyfriend
Coming up: We are excited to announce that we are planning a show with the beautiful Kumi in early August!
June 27, 2005
Show Notes for 0.5 - The Forced Feminization ShowWe had a great conversation on forced feminization with Natasha Strange
She shared her stories of training her personal submissives Sandra and Syndi. Two very different ‘ladies’ with different desires.
Natasha brought with her a few copies of Forced Womanhood Magazine that we hung onto for more ‘research’. It definitely gave us a whole new meaning of “the whole package”!Other Resources: House of Sissify
Posted by Nova at 05:49 AM
June 14, 2005
Show Notes for the Latex Show Part One and Two
Better late than never! Here are the show notes for both latex shows!
The ever lovely Mistress Selina Raven!
Looking for a vacbed? Vacbed.com
Other places we mentioned:
May 28, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 0.2 - The Spanking Show
Here are some of the links mentioned in the show.
Mistress Selina Raven
-As Selina mentioned, she is working on a upcoming spanking class for Good Vibrations, our favorite sex positive toy store. If you are in the San Francisco area keep your eyes peeled for that.
Did we miss something? Get it totally wrong? Let us know!