February 20, 2007
Fetish Flame 31.0 - February 19, 2007 - BDSM, Part 3 - Creating a Scene
Part 3 of a conversation on BDSM with Selina Raven. We touch upon the many facets of creating a scene: negotiation, preparation, what to do when things do not go the way you planned, aftercare, and so much more!
Fetish Flame 31.0 - February 19, 2007 - BDSM Part 3: Creating a scene
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February 07, 2007
Fetish Flame 29.0 - February 5, 2007 - Tales of a Kinky Mom
Longtime loyal fan and single mother of two Thrash comes on the show to tell us what it's like to be a kinky parent.
Fetish Flame 29.0 - February 5, 2007 - Tales of Kinky Mom
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December 05, 2006
Fetish Flame 28.0 - December 4, 2006 - Cigar Fetish
Smoke, anyone? Bridgett Harrington and her friend Coral drop by to talk about the special sexual appeal of a finely wrapped Cohiba. You'll never think of cigars the same way again. Bridgett also discusses her new book, Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame.
Fetish Flame 28.0 - December 4, 2006 - Cigar Fetish
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November 08, 2006
Fetish Flame 27.0 - November 7, 2006 - Midori's New Book: Master Han's Daughter
We are back! This is a show we recorded back in September, just before we took off for London and our "sabbatical." In it, Midori discusses her new cyberpunk/erotica book - cyberfilth, she calls it - Master Han's Daughter.
Sex and sci-fi, two great tastes that taste great together. Plus, it has a BDSM crunchy topping.
Fetish Flame 27.0 - November 7, 2006 - Midori's New Book: Master Han's Daughter
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September 18, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 26.0 - September 18, 2006 - BDSM, Part 2
We continue our conversation on BDSM with Selina Raven.
She introduces us to RACK - Risk-Aware Consensual Kink.
We touch upon edge play and triggers that can be set off during both physical and psychological play.
We list some of the activities that are part of BDSM play, but as Selina reminds us, you are only limited by your imagination when it comes to the types of play and what you can use when you are creating a scene.
She surprises us with what not to use when binding your partner, as well as some of the basics for picking out rope.
Listen in for some brief descriptions on spanking, flogging, electrical play, pinwheel, and so many more!
And because Selina is all about safety, she reminds us to practice, practice, practice before you turn that flogger onto to someone for the first time.
We will list the resources we mentioned on the show very soon. We invite everyone to share their own favorite BDSM resources here in the comments section.
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Fetish Flame 26.0 - September 18, 2006 - BDSM, Part 2
We continue our conversation on BDSM with Selina Raven.
We touch upon some of the activities that are part of BDSM play, but as Selina reminds us, you are only limited by your imagination when it comes to the types of play and what you can use when you are creating a scene.
Fetish Flame 26.0 - September 18, 2006 - BDSM, Part 2
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September 04, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 25.0 - September 4, 2006 - BDSM, Part 1
BDSM : Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism (or Sadomasochism)
Selina Raven joins us to talk about BDSM. She shares her knowledge of the history behind this alternative lifestyle, as well as her own experiences.
BDSM encompasses a lot of activities and mindsets. We talk about the roles of the top and the bottom, the dominant and the submissive, the sadist and the masochist. To some it's a lifestyle, to others it's a form of occasional play, and to some it's a spiritual practice.
Negotiation and communication are key elements in mastering any kind of relationship, especially BDSM, so we spend some time talking about the importance of BDSM activities being safe, sane, and consensual.
We finish Part 1 of this two-part conversation by defining what a safeword is and just why it is so crucial in every type of scene.
Stay tuned for Part 2, in which we dig deeper into the various kinds of play, equipment, and risks of S&M.
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Fetish Flame 25.0 - September 4, 2006 - BDSM, Part 1
Selina Raven joins us to talk about BDSM.
Fetish Flame 25.0 - September 4, 2006 - BDSM, Part 1
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August 16, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 23.0 - August 11, 2006 - Chanta Rose: Bondage for Sex
Chanta Rose is an incredibly beautiful and sexy bondage model and rigger, sex educator, webmaster, and now author of Bondage for Sex.
She joins us on the red couch for an intimate discussion of her book, her experiences with bondage, her websites, and the joys and perils of the Hitachi Magic Wand.
There's a momentary lapse into a conversation about Canon vs Nikon SLR cameras, but I quickly bring it back to the titillating topic at hand.
We can't say enough about her book (Atticus even gushes): incredibly sexy photos, well-detailed instructions on tying the knots, and down-to-earth writing. Which all lead to an amazing way to spend an evening with your partner.
Check out Chanta's websites:
Bondage Expert
Chanta's Bitches
And her husband's site:
Sex and Submission
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August 14, 2006
Fetish Flame 23.0 - August 11, 2006 - Chanta Rose: Bondage for Sex
Chanta Rose joins us to discuss her sexy new book, Bondage for Sex.
Fetish Flame 23.0 - August 11, 2006 - Chanta Rose Bondage for Sex
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July 15, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 21.0 - July 14, 2006 - Latex and Lust (Designs)
Penny of Lust Designs joins us to talk about our favorite topic: Latex!
She generously shares her experience and knowledge of creating latex fetish wear. We ask her about the various weights of rubber, the cost of custom made outfits, menswear, women's fashion, what you can and can't do with rubber, tips for those new to rubber, durability, etc.
You can check out more of her gorgeous designs in the gallery on her website and in issue 55 of Skin Two magazine.
["It's all about the fit. And as long as something fits you right ... no matter what size you are or what kind of flaws you think your body has, if you have something that is made personally for you that fits you the way it should, you'll look great in it no matter what it is. Because you have someone that knows how to fit your body, and that's something I'm really good at."]
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July 14, 2006
Fetish Flame 21.0 - July 14 - Latex and Lust (Designs)
Penny McClish of Lust Designs joins us to talk about our favorite topic: Latex!
Fetish Flame 21.0 - July 14 - Latex and Lust (Designs)
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June 02, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 20.0 - May 31, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part Two
This is part two of a conversation with the beautiful, intelligent, and wonderfully personable Bridgett Harrington, who sheds a blinky light on clown fetishism.
She helps us understand a bit more about what is behind this fetish, which has many different meanings to those who love to don the many different clown personas: "For a lot of people, it's about stepping out of the norm. It's about pushing other people's boundaries or just getting a chance to be stupid.... They are chaos magic incarnate."
Listen in for some of the most colorful stories ever told on the red couch! (Did she really say "pie-throwing, inflatable balloon strap-on gang bang?") We love when her voice slips into her clown persona Sherbert as she tells us of the adventures that come when that persona comes out to play.
We discuss the fun, silly side of clowns, and the dark "Devil's Rejects-like" menacing side of clowns. She is one; her husband is the other.
Want to know more about clowns? Check out the links at the bottom of Sherbert's page.
And as promised, here is the hilarious website of her friend Sex with Rubber Chickens.
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Fetish Flame 20.0 - May 31, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part Two
The second part of our interview with Bridgett Harrington. In this part, she talks about being a sexy clown.
Fetish Flame 20.0 - May 31, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part Two
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May 22, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 19.0 - May 21, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part One
This is the first of two shows with Bridgett Harrington. She wears many hats (corsets, costumes, etc.), and there isn't much she hasn't experienced or isn't willing to try. Check out her other sites: RopeLover, BlackBookArt.
This show focuses on her entrance into the BDSM community and the fun of wet and messy (WAM) play/sploshing.
Bridgett began to explore her sexuality at a very young age, and she entered into the BDSM community just a few years later. With very few limitations, she has dabbled in many areas of the scene. She selflessly shares her personal journey and the dangers of lack of education and guidance, along with with inexperience and innocence.
Then she gets down and dirty on WAM fetish. Wait until you hear her describe milk pouring down the body...it's just so...um....well, why don't you listen and hear it for yourself.
Note: If you are a regular subscriber to Bridgett's site, she will fulfill specific requests for images that you may want to see. So if you have a fetish that is so unique you are not finding what you want on the web, this could be your answer.
Stay tuned for part two, in which Bridgett answers our questions about a fetish we really didn't understand: clowns.
Other great WAM resources [Thank you, Yekim & Allie!]:
Ultimate Messy Directory
iWAM Guide (and check out methylcellulose)
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Fetish Flame 19.0 - May 21, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part One
Bridgett Harrington joins us to talk about her entrance into the BDSM community at an early age, and gets down and dirty telling us all about sploshing (aka wet and messy).
Fetish Flame 19.0 - May 21, 2006 - Interview with Bridgett Harrington, Part One
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April 24, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 18.0 - April 21, 2006 - Interview with Ms. Marina
[Thank you to my favorite kinky mom and new kinky friend, Ms Thrash, for the sexy intro!]
We sit down with Ms. Marina, an amazing fetish model, lifestyle dominant, Headmistress of Purgatory at Bar Sinister, and someone we are honored to call a friend.
She generously shares her experiences of coming to terms with being kinky, feeling out of place, getting over her insecurities, and finding her way into the BDSM community. As headmistress of a play space, she has some great advice to those who are just venturing out into the scene, as well as those who are contemplating it. She understands the apprehension and anxieties of being new to all of this, and she offers great tips on how to meet people and also some scene etiquette to remember.
Marina highly recommends getting as much information as you can before venturing out and has taken the time to put together a great list of books and web resources to get started. We welcome everyone to add to the list with their favorite BDSM piece. Check out Greenery Press and Daedalus Publishing Company to purchase most of the titles.
For another terrific interview with Marina, check out Thomas Roche's piece in Eros Zine.
Posted by Nova at 04:34 AM | Comments (5)
April 07, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 17.0 - April 6, 2006 - Underfoot with the Vinyl Queen
[Thank you to Autumn for the fun intro to the show and for creating a Fetish Flame MySpace Group!]
We discuss the nuances of trampling with the Vinyl Queen. She provides a lot of great info for the novice as well as some stories of the more extreme.
Safety is a big issue. There is danger for the trampler as well as the trample victim. We talk about the various levels of intensity, from the bare foot to the stainless steel pointed heel that can pierce the skin. She tells us about BZ heels, which leave a horseshoe print on the skin, and also reveals how a bathroom mat can help prevent marks.
VQ discusses balance, duration, the best parts of the body to trample, footwear, multiple tramplers, extreme cases, etc. She also answers questions including Why do people like to be trampled? What part does submission or humiliation play in trampling? and of course, How do I introduce my partner to my desire to be trampled?
...and wait until you hear about the cockbox! (a special version of the show to follow with pictures)
Don't get too excited, but it sounds like Atticus may just be up for trying this one out.
[A special note of thanks to M, who introduced us to the concept of trampling last fall and ignited my desire to learn more about this fetish. I appreciate your patience, and I hope that this was worth the wait!]
Other websites to check out:
Stryderman
Cuciolo
Mistress Destiny's Forum
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Fetish Flame 17.0 - April 6, 2006 - Underfoot with the Vinyl Queen
The lovely Vinyl Queen comes by to stomp out some of the preconceptions of trampling and enlightens us on the use of the "cock box."
Fetish Flame 17.0 - April 6, 2006 - Underfoot with the Vinyl Queen
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March 30, 2006
Fetish Flame 16.0 - March 29, 2006 - Part 2: Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, the Ultimate Kinky Couple
A brief catch-up on the Fetish Ball, meeting listeners, and a homemade vac bed.
We then finish up our conversation with Drs. Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence. They give great advice on how to approach, in a non-kinky environment, another couple you think may be kinky. We also dig into their their incredibly vast knowledge of porn and find out what their favorites are.
Posted by Nova at 05:41 AM
March 16, 2006
Show Notes for 15.0 - Part 1: Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, the Ultimate Kinky Couple
[Thank you to the beautiful Minx, host of Polyamory Weekly, for the intro!]
Before we get into our guest show, we chat a bit more about vac beds to answer a couple of listener questions.
We share the sad news that Gwen Media is closing down.
We revisit our favorite latex blog, 3xL,
and a new site, BelgiumMarc, that follows fetish events around the globe.
Speaking of events, we'll be at Club Enslaved and the SF Fetish Ball this weekend. Drop us a note if you'll be there; hopefully we can meet you.
And for the pièce de résistance: Drs. Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, founders of the Center for Sex and Culture and one of our favorite pervy couples, join us for a fun and sexy conversation.
In Part 1, we touch upon a great mix of erotic subjects: sex worker parties, queer limericks, parties with threesomes and moresomes, sex swings, etc.
Carol and Robert also offer some wonderful advice to a listener question: How does the single male meet people at kinky parties and sex clubs without coming off as "the creepy guy"?
Stay tuned for Part 2!
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Fetish Flame 15.0 - March 16, 2006 - Part 1: Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, the Ultimate Kinky Couple
Drs. Carol Queen and Robert Lawrence, founders of the Center for Sex and Culture and our favorite pervy couple, join us for a fun, sexy, and educational conversation. They share some of their adventures over the last 16 years together as they've worked and played in the sexual realm, and give some great advice on how to be a single guy at a sex party or event.
Posted by Nova at 02:39 PM
February 21, 2006
Show Notes for 13.0 - Diaper Dan
[Thank you to the gorgeous Ms Marina for the intro to the show!]
The hosts of Fetish Flame are graced with the presence of Diaper Dan and Madame Gina Grant, who provide additional information on the differences between Diaper Lovers and the Adult Baby/Infantilism population.
Dan has an incredible life story that all fetishists will find interesting. He is very comfortable with his kink and openly discusses all facets of how it started and how things have grown and changed over the last 30+ years. He is articulate, funny, and, says Nova, very handsome.
He generously shares stories of the evolution of his kink, from his first orgasm in seventh grade while rolling around in a pair of rubber pants to the current day setting of fun and elaborate sessions with Madame Gina in her play space.
Nova digs a bit into Dan's don't-ask-don't-tell policy with the woman with whom he shares his life.
Dan offers up some suggestions on how to set up the core elements of different role playing sessions. Atticus' favorite:
Nurse Ratchet: "Your stay here can be either constructive and a truly watershed event in your correctional development, or beyond even your most perverted and sorted nightmares. It's your choice, Danny."
He shares tips for finding a professional willing play in this fetish, and what to do and not to do when you contact them. Doms who do this are very much in the minority, but this actually plays into Dan's enjoyment: he gets off the taboo of his fetish.
Finally, he answers a listener's question about ordering products discreetly. As promised, here are the websites he suggests:
Diaper Connection, Diaper Station, Plastic Pants, Fetware, and SafeComfort.
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Fetish Flame 13.0 - Feb 20, 2006 - Diaper Dan
Diaper Dan shares an incredible life story that any fetishist can relate to. He is very comfortable with his kink and openly discusses all facets of how it started and how things have grown and changed over the last 30+ years.
He is articulate, funny, and, says Nova, very handsome.
Fetish Flame 13.0 - Feb 20, 2006 - Diaper Dan
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December 27, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 10.0 - Interview with Carol Queen
Nova and Atticus are joined on the red couch by Carol Queen, PhD, Staff Sexologist at Good Vibrations and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture. Carol is an author, performer, producer, editor and educator.
Listen in on a lively and informative conversation. Highlights include a discussion of the fun job of testing the toys at Good Vibes and going through private collections of porn donated to the Center. She shares a story of homemade porn that involves something as simple a one-minute segment of a woman tossing her hair or pursing her lips, cycled forward and backward repeatedly for the viewer's pleasure. What Carol and her partner Robert are most interested in finding are the things that cause arousal in individuals - and not just the mainstream "created porn" for the masses.
While talking fetishes, Nova is elated to find that Carol shares her fetish for the male forearm!
Carol generously shares her knowledge and experiences. She truly believes in the importance of sharing information as much as possible in order to educate people on all things sexual.
Along the same lines as her advice column "Queen of Hearts," she has plans to appear regularly on Fetish Flame in an "Ask Carol" segment. We invite you all to write in with your questions for us to present to Carol (we are happy to discuss them anonymously if you do not wish your name or pseudonym to be used).
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Fetish Flame 10.0 - December 27, 2005 - Interview with Carol Queen
Nova and Atticus are joined by Carol Queen, PhD, Staff Sexologist of Good Vibrations and co-founder of the Center for Sex and Culture. Carol is an author, performer, producer, editor and educator.
Fetish Flame 10.0 - Dec 27, 2005 - Interview with Carol Queen
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December 12, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 9.0 - Interview with Midori
International educator and author Midori joins Nova and Atticus on the red couch to discuss her latest travels and projects. They dig into her latest book, "Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink," an essay collection with a wonderful amount of information on sex and fetishes.
Midori describes herself as a polyfetishist, a hedonist, and a sensualist.
In her chat with Nova and Atticus, she shares a life of growing up with an open and healthy outlook on sex. They discuss the shame that exists for some in sex and in fetishism, and how that can limit their ability to talk about or act upon their kink.
Midori attributes her strong educational foundation to the wonderful instruction at San Francisco Sex Information, a free and anonymous resource for information and referrals.
Other titilating topics covered: traveling with SM gear, gas masks, latex, leather, and fur. And there's mention of a rubber inner tube and a bunny costume.
You can pick up a copy of Midori's book at JT's Stockroom and many other locations.
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Fetish Flame 9.0 - December 12, 2005 - Interview with International Author and Educator Midori
International educator and author Midori joins Nova and Atticus on the red couch to discuss her latest publication, "Wild Side Sex: The Book of Kink."
Fetish Flame 9.0 - Dec 13, 2005 - Interview with Fetish Diva Midori
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November 22, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde
Nova and Atticus sit down (in the jungle of LA) with world famous -- and incredibly humble -- international fetish photographer Steve Diet Goedde.
They talk about his career and the newly released "Living Through...Steve Diet Goedde," a collection of almost 15 years of unique, intelligent, and extraordinary work. (Nova gushes quite a bit in this interview.) This DVD honestly offers something for every fetishist and anyone who enjoys beautiful photography of very interesting and gorgeous women. (You can get a signed copy for $20 on his website.)
Steve discusses starting photography at a very early age and also opens up about his early memories of developing a boot and shoe fetish before he even knew what sex really was. Nova reveals a bit of her own fascination as she points out a number of unique shots that bring subtle focus on the sexy shoes, boots, and stockings on the models.
In addition to fetish photography, Steve has also had his phonecam art displayed in galleries.
Stay tuned for an advanced version to be offered on iTunes with images from the DVD.
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Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde (with slideshow)
Nova and Atticus meet with international fetish photographer Steve Diet Goedde and talk about life and his latest project, "Living Through...," a DVD anthology of his work.
Advanced version with images from the DVD - Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde
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November 21, 2005
Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde (audio only)
Nova and Atticus meet with international fetish photographer Steve Diet Goedde, and talk about life and his latest project a DVD anthology of his work: "Living Through..."
Advanced version with images from the DVD - Fetish Flame 7.0 - Nov 22, 2005 - Interview with Steve Diet Goedde (audio only)
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August 16, 2005
Show Notes for 0.8 - Aug 15, 2005 -Kumi
The beautiful and funny international fetish model, Kumi joins Atticus and Nova on the red couch. She answers all their questions openly about her modeling career, suspension bondage, and of course her shared love of latex.
Some of the links we discussed during the show....
Kumi's drool inducing current collection listed at Live Journal and her favorite designers and vendors
She has appeared in many magazines over the years (too many to list here) but our favs are Skin Two and Marquis.
We hope to have Kumi back to talk more about her other fetishes (stockings, shoes, wigs) and Nova wants to get personal and talk about relationships. She is traveling all through Europe for the next few months, so we may have to wait until the end of the year to have her back.
In the meantime, you can follow Kumi in her actively documented
Live Journal.
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Fetish Flame 0.8 - Aug 15, 2005 - Kumi
International fetish model Kumi joins us to talk about fetish modeling, latex and suspension.
Fetish Flame 0.8 - Fetish model - Kumi
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May 28, 2005
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 0.2 - The Spanking Show
Here are some of the links mentioned in the show.
-Guests
Mistress Selina Raven
-As Selina mentioned, she is working on a upcoming spanking class for Good Vibrations, our favorite sex positive toy store. If you are in the San Francisco area keep your eyes peeled for that.
-Just some of the spanking sites that we either mentioned or just "enjoyed" while "researching."
Spanking Blog: Adult Erotic Spanking At Its Best
Shadow Lane Spanking Network
Did we miss something? Get it totally wrong? Let us know!
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