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April 24, 2006
Show Notes for Fetish Flame 18.0 - April 21, 2006 - Interview with Ms. Marina
[Thank you to my favorite kinky mom and new kinky friend, Ms Thrash, for the sexy intro!]
We sit down with Ms. Marina, an amazing fetish model, lifestyle dominant, Headmistress of Purgatory at Bar Sinister, and someone we are honored to call a friend.
She generously shares her experiences of coming to terms with being kinky, feeling out of place, getting over her insecurities, and finding her way into the BDSM community. As headmistress of a play space, she has some great advice to those who are just venturing out into the scene, as well as those who are contemplating it. She understands the apprehension and anxieties of being new to all of this, and she offers great tips on how to meet people and also some scene etiquette to remember.
Marina highly recommends getting as much information as you can before venturing out and has taken the time to put together a great list of books and web resources to get started. We welcome everyone to add to the list with their favorite BDSM piece. Check out Greenery Press and Daedalus Publishing Company to purchase most of the titles.
For another terrific interview with Marina, check out Thomas Roche's piece in Eros Zine.
Posted by Nova at April 24, 2006 04:34 AM
Comments
Posted by: DrBlack at April 25, 2006 03:46 AM
Very, very,insightful show. The three of you need a call-in podcast (or call-in radio show)where you can take questions real-time.
All the best,
DrBlack
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at April 28, 2006 10:27 AM
I just want to thank you both for having such a great guest. MsMarina was just so.. I hate to use the word "Normal" However, she had a laid back attiude. She was just a perfect guest. And I hope to hear her on the show again in the near future.
Thank you,
Brandon
TheMeandBShow
Posted by: Roman at April 29, 2006 05:37 AM
Thanks for yet another excellent show. I love your easy going and intelligent conversations. One thing that Ms.Marina mentioned several times was that women need to watch out for the 'creeps' in the scene. Is it really that bad that there are so many 'creeps' in the scene? Any other tips to differentiate yourself from the less desirable element as a single guy?
Thanks,
-Roman
Posted by: Marina at May 1, 2006 11:39 PM
Thank you so much, all of you, for the great comments! I'm glad you enjoyed it and that I could be somewhat helpful. And a call in radio show... ohman, how fun would that be?!
Roman, I know exactly what you mean. When I heard the interview again, I noticed how many times I had mentioned the "predators" and cringed a bit.
No, it's not THAT bad. It's just that, when I think about everyone I know and what their worst experiences have been, it comes down to not being careful and in this "world" that can be disasterous, emotionally and physically. I got a little overzealous in my desire to get that across. ;)
I think one of the best things you can BE, in this scene, is a single guy with a good reputation. Cultivate that! Take care of yourself, be confident, trustworthy and strong. Dom or sub, strength and strength of character is always attractive. If you're really scared and shy, maybe take an acting class or something that can help you feel more comfortable and confident. A man who carries himself with ease will get a lot of positive attention from women.
Hope that helps a little bit! Good luck on your journey...
xo
~M
Posted by: Stays at May 4, 2006 06:57 PM
I know exactly how to deal with these "creeps" and "predators" at events. They should be wrestled to the ground, flogged and trampled.
Oh...wait...that might be counterproductive.
Errr...ummm...nevermind.
*Blush*
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