Fetish Flame

Posted by: Stays at November 5, 2005 11:02 PM

Hi Atticus and Nova,

I’ll start with an apology. I promised myself I wouldn’t pester you with yet another posting, but this week’s program was too close to me for me to resist. If I can, I’d like to direct my comments and questions to your guest.

Hi syndi,

As someone in a similar situation to yours, I really appreciate you sharing your experiences on the podcast. I’m happy for you that you appear to have found a balance that allows you to maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse while still enjoying the kinks and fetishes that are surely such an important part of your life. Although my wife is perhaps a bit more receptive of my kinks (she even bought me panties for Father’s Day), she has also declined to be an active participant in my lifestyle. At the risk of being too personal, could I ask if you’ve ever feared that, even within whatever boundaries you negotiated with your spouse, you would go too far and cross a line she was not truly ready or willing for you to cross; for example, your decision to visit Princessa Strange. Obviously since my wife does not share my “interests”, my marriage is based on so much more and I wouldn’t want to do anything that would damage it. I sometimes feel she is allowing me certain freedoms only because she does not want to harm our relationship, not because she is comfortable with them. I’d prefer to rein in my own desires, rather than hurt her. What else is a relationship other than an exercise in compromise anyway?

Thanks for appearing on the show and my best wishes for your continued happiness.

Sincerely,
Stays…or wait…not Stays; somebody other than Stays

P.S. Atticus and Nova, up to now I’ve not had a desire to purchase one of the new video iPods; but if you should decide to release a video podcast of Fetish Flame, my wife is soooo not going to like you.

Posted by: Billy - 45/M at November 5, 2005 11:39 PM

I listened to the syndi show as I usually do, after crawling into bed with my iPod at the end of another exhausting vanilla week. I always look forward to the new Fetish Flame as I find comfort in Nova's voice and attitude. Thanks for that Nova.

I am always intrigued hearing the events that lead up to Nova and Atticus becoming a kink-sharing couple. I would think that many fetishists leading vanilla lives with vanilla spouses wish their relationships could have played out this way. How lucky you are Atticus, to have found someone with an open mind and adventurous spirit.

Although I'm not particularly interested in cross-dressing, I understand syndi's obsession with women's clothing. I think it's quite common for a heterosexual man to become excited by feminine things as we associate them with women. Syndi sounds quite comfortable with herself and her life situation. Well done.

A listener's program note... Not sure if it was intentionally placed there or not... but after the end theme music fades on this week's Podcast there is alittle snippet of Nova saying something fun. Are you guys leaving us clues ala the Beatles Strawberry Fields?

Posted by: Nova at November 5, 2005 11:44 PM

Stays,
First off, you can Never comment enough. We encourage any and all to post here with feedback, suggestions, questions for us and our guests.

Secondly, I love that you wrote this. After the diaper show, I realized how wonderful these comment sections are when they become a bit of a Forum.

please letl Laces know that the lack of funds that comes after a wedding will save her for a bit until we can afford the video camera - But once we can... there are so many ideas we have for it!!!

xoxo!!
Nova

Posted by: Nova at November 5, 2005 11:51 PM

Billy - I can't believe someone found it already =giggle=

we are Huge fans of Mystery Science Theatre 3000 - and we always stick around after all the credits when they drop in an offbeat clip from the movie - and we thought it would be fun to do it here.
(lord knows there are a plethora of offbeat moments in our shows)

but we figured it would be a while til someone found them

glad you liked it

Posted by: syndi at November 6, 2005 10:52 PM

Hi Stays,

You asked "if you�ve ever feared that, even within whatever boundaries you negotiated with your spouse, you would go too far and cross a line she was not truly ready or willing for you to cross".

i think within the boundaries, i am confident that she would be ok with what i am doing. Outside the boundaries, there would be issues, for example, if i was having sex or developed a strong emotional attachment to someone else.

One thing i didn't mention in the podcast is that my wife has a good sense of humor about my secret life and that is fun. For example, when she is putting on lipstick, she might pretend to put it on me. Or when we are shopping, i might point to something and she'll say "you want that for yourself."

Thanks for all your nice comments about the podcast.

syndi

Posted by: sandra at November 7, 2005 02:49 PM

A great pleasure to hear your discussion. syndi, i am glad you have peace in both your relationships, and it is wonderful of you to share aspects of them with Nova and Atticus...and all the rest of us! You and Princess Natasha are so cute together; indeed, just like girlfriends, and it is great to be around you two, and be a part of your interaction.

And the Pink Posse certainly would be depleted without your energy!

Posted by: Stays at November 7, 2005 10:30 PM

Hi syndi,

Thank you so much for your response. It sounds like your wife and you have a lovely relationship. I must trust that my wife was as honest and open with me as I was with her. Oh, and she did give me a big cheesy grin and a thumbs up when I mentioned your wife's "don't ask/don't tell" policy. Thanks again.

Regards,
Stays

Posted by: Fetish Happy at November 9, 2005 04:39 AM

Atticus, Nova and Syndi,

First of all I would just like to thank all of you for diving into an area that my mind has been on for several years. Syndi I would really like to thank you a whole lot. I was really jealous when I heard that you were about a size 7. Wow, I wish I could get to that size someday. Also, from what Nova and Atticus were saying there, it sounded like you looked very sexy and sassy.

After hearing all the excitment, I kept on thinking about you guys having video and pictures to go with your podcast. I apologize for me coming off as pushy or something. I don't want to be telling you guys what to do. So far you have been doing great with everything and giving us treats along the way with sites, pictures, and other little things. So I am just going to wait and see what other neato things are on their way.

Thanks again for all the wonderful shows. Thank you again Syndi for taking the time to show us part of your world.

Until next time. Have fun.

Fetish Happy

Posted by: syndi at September 13, 2007 02:26 AM

As www.fetishflame.com no longer uses the libsyn server, this podcast is unavailable. Please move it to your current server. Also, please check bothofus mail for an updated photo.

Really miss you guys!
xxxooo,
syndi

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