Fetish Flame

Posted by: Billy - M/45 at October 29, 2005 05:49 AM

What a great podcast. I was particularly taken by Nova's interest in a man's forearm donning a watch and the discussion around ears. Ten different people could analyze this and give you ten different answers regarding possible origins. I know when I fantasize about women, I often focus on what some people might consider non-sexual aspects of their appearance. Face freckles are big for me, but I don't like chest or shoulder freckles. I also prefer brunettes and I have what I would call a strong boot fetish (especially with tight jeans). What does this mean? Why is my brain wired this way?

I know that the first instant I realized I truly loved a woman, body and soul, I was looking at my high school girlfriend. I remember the moment vividly. That warm rush. She had long brown hair, she was wearing a brown hooded sweatshirt, and jeans tucked into boots. And she had these big apple pie cheeks with FRECKLES! I think you could make a connection to my preferences today.

Of course there are aspects of my sexuality that I can't make any sense of. Why an interest in Bondage and fetish clothing? - can't connect that to anything obvious. I did have a crush on Emma Peel in The Avengers when I was young... she was always decked out and trussed up. You might connect that to my adult interests.

When you consider how complex the human brain is, I'm convinced that all of these things have to do with how the brain gets chemically wired during the time of a person's sexual development. Somethings are obvious, some are not. Some aspects may be the result of being stimulated by an experience, some may just be random. The universe, after all is a very random place. There is a beauty to it. Too bad we can't just appreciate and enjoy it.

Love your show.

Posted by: Nova at October 30, 2005 04:55 PM

...and since the show, I realized that it is not specific to a watch on a man's arm, it can be a leather cuff or band too... And the arm can't be exceptionally hairy.

It's really interesting to me now that I've talked about it, I'm more aware of it and what specifics it entails.

Posted by: Saffron at October 30, 2005 07:58 PM

Great show. True fetishes are really difficult to deal with in a long-term relationship, and I have seen people with them in a lot of distress because the actualization of a fetish is rarely a satisfying conclusion.

I have an almost-fetish for women wearing shiny, silky clothing. When my wife wears a satin blouse, it instantly guarantees that I will be discreetly groping her all night while we are out. But when she takes it off, my interest is in touching her, not the clothing.

Needless to say, silk scarves are a frequent accessory in our intimate times - sometimes on her, sometimes on me.

Posted by: Nova at October 30, 2005 08:07 PM

Saffron - that's so sexy!
I have often selected a shirt or pants that are made of material that I know will turn Atticus on...it is its own version of foreplay!

thanks so much for sharing
xoxo
N

Posted by: Stays at October 31, 2005 02:10 AM

Nova and Atticus,

These conversation shows are proving to be a lot of fun. It's almost like being there in the room with you. A silent participant. Perhaps a piece of furniture. Like an unworthy human chair supporting the lovely bottom of Mistr...ummmm...anyway...

As much as I enjoy Violet Blue's podcasts (Enjoyed? Where are you Violet Blue?), I'll have to disagree with her definition of fetish. Although being covered head to toe in latex, corseted, and wearing thigh high boots can lead to some mind blowing orgasms, they are neither necessary for me to become aroused nor to achieve an orgasm. Since both my obsession with latex and with crossdressing developed very early on, before I was even fully sexually aware of myself, I consider these to be very much my fetishes. Conversely, if during a bit of naughtiness the wife wants to hurry things along and catch something on TV, simply clamping down on my nipples with the grip of death is guaranteed to send me straight to the finish line. Though pain certainly has a more direct effect on my sexual performance, it's more of a learned pleasure for me and not something I obsess over like latex or crossdressing. That being said, I'd say the exploration and enjoyment of our fetishes/obsessions/interests is of more importance than their definitions.

All my best,
Stays

P.S. Sorry Atticus, but if it comes down to Atticus and Nova vs. Nova, Mistress Selina, and Madame Gina as hosts, I'm afraid I'd have to vote you off your own show. There are simply some opportunities that can't be passed up:)

Posted by: Nova at October 31, 2005 05:02 AM

Stays - definitely some food for thought on fetishes.
Atticus has some interesting theories on fetishists versus sensualists that I'd love to get him to expand upon in an upcoming show as well.

...and a very titilating reference to nipple pain and orgasms. I share your inability to hold back when I feel that pleasure/pain.

Now excuse me while I meet Him downstairs for our own private play party to cap off the weekend. If you are nice, maybe we'll tell you about it later....

Posted by: Michael at October 31, 2005 05:37 AM

I very much enjoy your show. You asked for folks to comment if they like the format of the 25 Oct 05 show - a group discussion. I like it very much and encourage you to do more in this style.

Posted by: Fetish Happy at November 2, 2005 05:03 AM

Nova and Atticus,

I found this show pretty interesting. I did sort of feel sorry for Atticus there. I know it was a nice light hearted conversation, but when the three women were playfully saying that they could do the show without him, I was a little hurt. I can't speak for the majority of people here, but sometimes it seems to me that several people sometimes blow off Atticus. Well Atticus I just want to say thank you. I am very glad there is a male figure out there willing to talk about all of these ideas.

Well, that's mainly what I had to say about this show. Probably by now you two are either doing another show or done with one. I was kind of curious about some ideas for other shows such as: CBT, puppy play, mommy play, sensory play, etc. I know there are hundreds of fetishes out there to talk about and will take a while to get to a lot of them.

Speaking of that, when listening to this show, I realized that when people sometimes adment that they like a certain type of fetish, that they are kind of coming out with that part of them. I know that might sound a little strange but that's how I sort of feel about some fetishes of mine.

Well, I can't wait until next show. Until then, have fun.

Fetish Happy

Posted by: Nova at November 2, 2005 06:08 AM

Well said FH!

Without Atticus there is no FetishFlame. He is the beauty and the brains behind all that it is. This is his creation, and I'm so happy to be along for the adventure. =gush=

And seriously, 3 women talking all the time would not be as interesting after a while, trust me.

PS: New show should be up tomorrow!

Posted by: Nevermore at November 3, 2005 07:24 AM

Love the podcast, I've downloaded several of them, and this comment is for all of them so far: I like them all a lot, very well done and interesting. Selina and Gina are good guests to have, informative and sexy.

Keep up the good work.

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